This theory really unsettled me the first time I read it —I guess because I think its mostly true.

The upside is that — it is mostly true. It’s only part of the story. Life is amazingly complex and requires a constant re-prioritization of where we’ll focus our energies. Too often we think of setting priorities — and then keeping those for the long term — no matter what. For example someone who makes family a priority — which means (to them) that they’ll NEVER miss a school function for a career event. And if they miss an event -they’ve failed to honor that priority.

This is akin to black & white thinking. It’s narrow and idealistic- and not practical.

Whats better is to understand that we establish priorities as guideposts toward which we move — within a given context. Our context is constantly changing — and thus how we move toward those priorities needs to shift as well.

This is such a rich topic. Thank you for posing it and getting me thinking on it.

Dad, husband, thinker, writer, exerciser. “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” — Dumbledore