Being clear gives me something to stand on.

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Sometimes it feels like there is no ground beneath my feet. Floating or falling feel the same when life happens. When confronted with inevitable challenges, I call forth what I value to help me navigate to a solution, providing the necessary ground to root my next action.

Events will call upon us to define who we are and what we stand for. Life demands that we choose how we will express our core values. The spring and early summer of 2020 was such a time in my life. I experienced a sudden…

Could uttering a few words inside my mixed up head make any difference in the real world?

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“Slow Down” — it’s the mantra I’m stepping into 2021 with. Do I really need to be reminded to slow down after a year spent indoors without much to do? Yes. Yes, I do.

The way I think of a mantra is a short phrase I keep in mind and say to myself often. A reminder to do something or lean in a certain direction. For me, a mantra is more like self-talk, rather than something that might be found in or .

I didn’t always think mantras and self-talk possessed value. For many years I believed…

There is no mystery, this is just the way she is.

Angels walk among us
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Angels walk amongst us. Not the winged kind with halos and white robes, nor the chubby spooky baby kind that comes out every Valentine’s day. There are real flesh and blood angels who walk through life just like you and I do. They don’t draw attention to themselves but when we meet them, we know it. They smile a lot, laugh a lot, and give everything of themselves without a hint of self-righteousness or expectations of getting something in return. They draw from a deep internal well and pour love into the world. I know they exist. …

There is more to a word than the definition

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When I tell someone that my college degree is in philosophy I nearly always get the head tilt to the side look of “really?” Despite the quizzical looks or the quick, “I could never study that” response, I’m confident that my deep interest in philosophy is not weird or special. It’s one of my defining characteristics. However, if not for a small kindness shown to me when I was in High School, I may never have allowed myself to pursue my natural curiosity and find my ‘love of wisdom’.

My wife and I have been watching the show, “The Good…

Find the courage to let joy into your life.

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“Life will bring you pain all by itself. Your responsibility is to create joy.” Milton Erickson

After getting up early each morning to swim, bike, and run for months, I had done it. I’d completed a triathlon. Jolene and some of my training friends were at the finish line waiting for me. It was an intense day of overcoming obstacles and pushing myself to achieve something I had never done before. I expected to feel the joy of accomplishment. The reward for all the work.

And I did for a brief time.

But then a thought began to creep in…

We may be hearing words but we’re not understanding the message

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Have you ever been in a conversation that raised your levels of fear and anxiety? So much so that it seemed like people were drawing out your frustrations like a snake charmer?

What if there was a way to take part in conversations that left you feeling curious and not anxious? Excited and not fearful?

The way to better conversations is to put down your ego and listen.

Listen with curiosity.
Listen to understand.
Listen with empathy,
with compassion,
with your heart.

referred to listening as magic in this most recent 1-minute Wednesday newsletter:

I want to be…

It wasn’t until quite recently that the question finally made sense

Worrying over coffee
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“Is it useful?”

Joseph Goldstein, the meditation instructor asks us this simple question when we find ourselves worrying and fretting about the future.

I was introduced to this question while utilizing the (I recommend it) by the television anchor, Dan Harris. Like him, I have tended to want to answer this rhetorical question in the affirmative. I get wrapped up in the importance and strategic value of my worry. I have convinced myself that my worry keeps me sharp and ready for the challenges ahead. …

Prioritization is the part of the 4 burner theory I’d neglected to appreciate.

The 4 Burner Theory & Priorities
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It was 2016. I was turning 40 and feeling listless and adrift. Everything was going well, but I didn’t feel excited about where I was headed. I triumphantly decided that I was going to set some goals. I was going to move away from the mediocre and into something that looked unequivocally like success. I would set motivating goals in each domain of my life.

I was listening to who, on his podcast and Instagram missives, preached to break out of mediocrity and to fear being stagnant like it was a terminal condition. …

I have arrived inexcusably late (I am better than this) — and now commit to being part of the work that needs to be done to move us in the right direction.

There is a poignant quote that is often attributed to a Chinese proverb. It says, “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.”

It took a post/Instagram story being shared with me by my wise, kind, and beautiful daughter to open my eyes to the reality of my privilege. My complicity in the plight of so many members of our community.

I’ll be honest, as I believe that it is required of me at this moment. I only watched the video because my daughter shared it with me — and…

Anthony Beckman

Dad, husband, thinker, writer, exerciser. “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” — Dumbledore

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